Voice disappointment, don’t let people INTERRUPT you -all those golden rules about conversational etiquette are rarely followed and people will interrupt you at work, school and personal life. Not Nice is for people like myself who struggle to be assertive and direct and tend to take the more polite route, often at our own expense. Through thousands of hours of his own training, counseling, reading, group work, and coaching, he has truly mastered what it takes to break free from shyness and social anxiety into a life of confidence. Whenever we go to a new environment— a networking event, a conference, a party, a new job, or anywhere else where we’re putting ourselves out there— we imagine that one person. If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say "no" to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness.

This book speaks directly to the soul of the reader and while there are plenty of different souls out there in the world.This is essential because chronic indecisiveness is a result of being disconnected or alienated from your true self.

it's something that's plagued me for years, to the point where i get extreme anxiety anytime i have to start a conversation or ask someone for something (anything!Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the most bold, expressive, authentic version of you. That’s how I feel about a lot of self-help and business books at this point – unless they are super niched and tactical, they are all too similar to keep my interest. I like long books when there is enough good content, but this becomes very repetitive, and there are way too many long-winded personal stories and plugs for his other books and programs. Nice guys" are highly inhibited - they need to start acting and speaking BEFORE they think; they are way too much in their heads, which makes it difficult for others to connect to them.

There’s a solid takeaway here for people who take on too much responsibility for the feelings of others, but I wonder if the advice within is really all that healthy. a therapist I had literally 2 years ago recommended this to me and it took me that long to finish cause this book is such a honker.And besides, how could I not love anybody who shares my belief in 'claiming the extraordinary' every single day. Create real, deep, and authentic connections with friends, colleagues, family, and anyone you'd like!

He lives in Portland, Oregon with his wife Candace and son Zaim (who he claims is the "most socially confident badass kid in the world. as a person with a mother who is a perpetual people pleaser, I’ve had a lot to unlearn over the years. There were also many moments of, "Okay, I get it, I already bought the book, you don't have to keep selling me on your point. A lot of details on our conditioning to become nice and how the environmental pressures start taking us to not be ourselves under the notion of you are not nice! Thanks for stopping by for my unfiltered approach to family and lifestyle where I share what helps me run my family, business, and life while being lazy AF as often as possible.Aziz lives out his mission: To help every person who is stuck in shyness liberate themselves to pursue the relationship, career, and life they have always dreamed of. There are so many layers of why a man shouldn’t do this and it’s hard to imagine he’s not aware of them. However, the conversational style and author’s humor make this book very easy to read and not overwhelming. But since the author is inclined to share every details of this particular aspect as well as his family story, sometimes reader might get lost in this reading journey.