And best of all, this type of “punishment” may actually save your marriage. You may find that your relationship can be salvaged, and that God can recreate what you thought was lost forever. She does of course, not like it when he vigorously spanks her bare bottom but she is not either supposed to like it but to be in great pain and distress and when it is over and she has had a little time to compose and collect herself she – perhaps reluctantly – will realise that the spanking was not just a deserved punishment but also what she needed both as a necessary reminder of her place and as reassurance being safe under her husband’s authority and in his loving care.

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I was taken to the barn for strappings ,we didnot have a woodshed, pants & shorts taken down or off, butt bare. All perfect praise be to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.

An-Nawawi said, " He does not opt for the next (harsher) disciplinary measure until he believes that the former one is ineffective." Discipline and punishmentis a difficult area in a loving FLR. I have a marriage based on love and the implicit agreement of the transfer of power to one person: me. So this gives me challenges. No matter how much the wife loves, trusts and respects her husband and consequently wants to be good and obedient there will inevitably be times when she fails to obey her husband and the set rules. It happens for many different reasons such as forgetfulness, a temperamental or lazy disposition, carelessness, simple female foolishness and PMS but even a good wife will also at times deliberately disobey because she meets temptations she cannot resist. Hmmmm… interesting idea…. I think it’s about time I start making a few changes in MY MARRIAGE and RELATIONSHIP….” An-Nawawi said, " It is impermissible (for the husband) to beat his wife severely even if he knows that it is the only effective means to make her give up her disobedience."

DISCIPLINE AND PUNISHMENT - LADY ALEXA

I received a note a few days ago from a desperate wife. “Would it be alright if I stopped cooking dinner for my husband? It’s become obvious to me that he is no longer interested in even trying to find a solution for our relationship.” She went on to describe what she had tried in the past to get him to change – to no avail. Something had to change.You can think of these steps as punishing your wife or husband the right way, the way that will get your needs and wants met. So here we go. A good and responsible husband must be aware that keeping her in line and spanking her bare bottom for misbehaviour is the best and most effective method to instil suitable trust, respect and obedience in his loving wife. The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of What to Expect. Learn more about our guidelines