Don’t be afraid to try multiple cages. Finding one that fits well can massively enhance your chastity experience. We’ve rounded up the latest and most excellent toys to hold your member captive for all your chastity fans. Are you feeling particularly adventurous? Explore our favorite extreme sex toys or even some of the best ball stretchers to pair up with your chastity cage. Long story short, you don’t want to go outside and have everyone looking at your cage underneath your trousers. Sleeker plastic cages will be better for this as they are easier to wear and move around in, and often less bulky under the pants. Place the tape measure on top of your penis against your pubic muscle. Wrap the tape measure all the way around your penis and testicles and note where it crosses over. The best way to take accurate measurements is to use a flexible tape measure. These are the kind you usually see tailors use to measure for clothing.

Generally wearing a chastity device does not hurt, but you shouldn’t always expect it to feel comfortable right away. It can take a some time to become used to it; both physically and mentally. Once you’ve become accustomed to wearing it at times it will sometimes feel as if the cage is “caressing” your penis. This can heighten arousal, and feels like you’re wearing your own personal “bondage cuddle”. When you try a new cage, pay attention to your body. Any discomfort or pain indicates a problem with the fit.Sometimes you’ll also see a measurement for the gap between the ring and the body, which can be useful if you have particularly large or high hanging testicles, but most of the time you won’t need to measure for this part. The measurements you’ll need are length and girth, plus the circumference from underneath your balls and over your penis. Write down these measurements while both flaccid and erect. There’s nothing hugely special about me. I’d describe myself as your typical modern, forward-thinking guy. I enjoy sports, staying healthy, love my family and friends, and have a satisfying career that pushes me to work hard so I can enjoy some of life's luxuries. When I say “effectively”, that means a few things. It should keep it secure, obviously. But also consider how hard you want it to restrain erections. You have to remember these devices aren’t tested. They’re not medical devices, so there’s basically no science telling us if they’re safe or dangerous.

While not all chastity devices list a gap size, it’s usually easy to see from pictures if a cage has a large or small gap, relative to the device's size itself. Estimates can be made from the product's total length.If you masturbate alone every day, then you’ll probably want less sex. And when you do have sex, you might find be desensitized. You might even find it hard to cum. BDSM purists will say that metal is the only option for serious chastity play. They keep the penis under tight control and often allow plenty of ventilation. Chafing and circulation are a concern if they’re too tight, so make sure you apply some lubricant regularly to avoid skin damage. Consider the temperature when measuring. If it’s cold your penis will be smaller. If it’s warm your penis will be larger. Similar to the penis and scrotum diameter, place the tape measure on top of your penis, but this time at the widest part of your glans (the head of the penis). Wrap it all the way around and note where it crosses over. This measurement helps you find the right gap size for your chastity cage—the gap size is simply the distance between the bottom of the ring and the tube. This measurement is usually non-critical for most, but if you have larger-than-normal testicles or testicles that are tight and close to your body, you may find that cages with small gaps put uncomfortable pressure on your testicles.

When Shakespeare wrote, “discretion is the better part of valor”, he probably didn’t mean chastity cages. (Then again, who knows, maybe it was his thing.) Personally, I get distracted by horniness pretty often. I still manage to get my work done on time, but it’s more difficult for some guys. The key is getting the right fit. You’ll need to have accurate measurements to find the right size chastity cage for you, and even then, everybody and every cage is different, so it’s normal to go through some trial and error.

Too loose, and it could fall off while wearing it, which is an uncomfortable thing to experience if you’re wearing your cage in public.