It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

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In this expansive episode, Megan speaks with world-renowned author and physician Gabor Maté about the role of trauma and grief in our personal lives and in society at large.

I also recommend this to everyone, because at some point you or someone you love will be bereaved, and the information in this book is worth knowing ahead of time. As a vocal sceptic with a history of disliking any self-help book I pick up, I was very hesitant when I saw that tag attached to this book at my library. This is also a great book to give to family or friends who are trying to understand the best (and most genuine) ways to support someone in grief. It hasn't made things easier, my grief is still the heavy immovable object it was before, but I feel seen, understood.Through her life work--and now this important book--Megan leads us to a place that's rare in our culture: a place where our loss is valued and honored and heard. Megan Devine tells the truth about loss, and in doing so, she normalizes an experience that has been censored and stigmatized. Leanne Pedante and her husband Miles’ relationship was built on bravery and communication - they worked so hard to reach the next step together, excited to explore the edges of possibility in love and in life.

Kate Bowler, PhD, is an associate professor of the history of Christianity in North America at Duke Divinity School. The author of this book tries to share her expertise on grief in a new authentic way, a more relatable and accurate way.Devine is masterful at articulating the varied and harsh realities grievers (and those who support them) face on a daily basis and then provides real tools to identify your own path forward by validating your story of devastation, of hopelessness, and of love. First it offers a compassionate and accepting view towards grief that is so often lost in our modern society. It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better. It also has some really helpful advice about coping with the cognitive issues posed by grief, when a person's brain is occupied with trying to reorganize a world that no longer makes sense, and dealing with the often crippling anxiety that follows a loss. What happens when you have to face a new year without your person in it (or without the health you used to have!

She understands the pain that grieving people carry on top of their actual grief, including the pain of being judged, dismissed, and misunderstood.Unfortunately, the author cannot help, despite her many protestations of the contrary, nudging her readers towards a “happily ever after” ending, although she tries to wriggle out of this inconsistency by trying to 'redefine' what it means to be happy. Yes, those of us who have been bereaved can identify with that, but it's as you would expect, people just don't know what to say to you! In a culture that leaves us all woefully unprepared to navigate grief, Megan Devine's book is a beacon for a better way of relating. Through her many articles and speaking engagements, she has emerged as a bold new voice in the world of grief therapy.