Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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She mentioned how life-changing it was to determine what was her business, someone else's business or God's business. I think that the questions are basic stuff for those familiar with cognitive behavioral therapy, but for some reason Katie's four particular questions really work. But those who are already familiar with them will probably be wasting their time trying to find something significantly insightful or transformative here other that perhaps just a reminder of and another way to word principles they are already aware of.

This was a helpful reminder for me to think about what areas I still have "should" statements in and to explore why.So we can move on to other people and strategies without blaming them, though we allow ourselves, compassionately, to feel disappointed, and take that disappointment as our soul's wisdom that we do need to move on and set that boundary perhaps. In my experience there are many paths to go, and I dont believe there is a 'cure them all' or a saviour, or one and one only remedy for life's hardships or personal challenges. And I don't believe a healthy, integrated and sane adult just resigns to accept whatever the other person is doing just because it's "not their business. Questioning your own judgements and investigating your own feelings and looking at them from other perspectives can lead to many new insights and open your eyes to liberating perepctives and thoughts you've never even considered. Many people are, and unfortunately, most are resigned to living a stressful life – as there seems to be no alternative.

Byron Katie must not be a sexual abuse surivor because her "work" with this gal both appalling and insensitive. You don't talk to you because you're mentally over there running his business and then you're feeling all the loneliness of that. If taken to it's logical conclusion her methods could lead devotees towards a existential crisis from which one might never recover. However, we need to realize we are also a part of the world and do have some control over what happens; and that a healthy adult realizes that and is able to be assertive without being attached.And the basic idea is that we bring our desires to the world and the world brings its desires to us - and what happens is often something in between. Your donations support us to cover on-site hotel and food expenses for scholarship recipients, while BKI grants their tuition. Based her own experience, she now shares her method of conquering depression and unhappiness with people all over the world so they can lead a more fulfilling life. If you cherry pick quotes out of this book you'll end up with a collection of seemingly valuable maxims, which I assume are the reasons for this book's success.

In this book, Katie does more than describe the awakened mind; she lets you see it and feel it in action. Loving What Is by Byron Katie is a self-help book that teaches readers how to relieve suffering by questioning their thoughts and beliefs. I will also say that I did find the simplicity and clarity of the work to be helpful in many regards too, as reminders to me of how I can live out the principles of acceptance for what is and what I cannot control better (e. In Byron Katie's book with Stephen Mitchell, Loving What Is: Four questions that can change your life, the light came on.For instance, if I want to have someone else be a part of my life in a significant way, and they are important to me, then how they choose to live and operate is going to have significant effects on me.

This book has taught me that the rain isn't causing my irritation; my irritation is caused when I attach my belief that it shouldn't be raining. When a person becomes familiar with the four questions and is capable of placing negative thoughts under the scrutiny of The Work, the questions create a framework that can transform difficult situations in virtually any area.And this is why we can have compassion on judgments - the judgments of others and our own judgments. In that case, if they are in my life (and I in theirs) in that way, then the lines between "our business" may be more interdependent. This book is NOT for those who cannot self-analyze at all, or do not have the ability to challenge their way of thinking in insightful ways.