What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Speed-Reading People

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If language was given to men to conceal their thoughts, then gesture's purpose was to disclose them." The next time you’re in a conversation, see if you can identify what the other person is feeling just by their body language. You may be surprised at how accurate you are. Rating No much of a reliance on the PDF file to describe or demonstrate the content. Maybe this wasn't the right kind of book for an audiobook. Leaning in or leaning away serves the same purpose: we lean in to show comfort and liking and we lean away to show discomfort and dislike. Practice, practice, and practice because there is no other way or shortcut to success other than practicing a lot.

So much for the basics, but how do you become good at this thing? As usual, there’s no shortcut to success. Practice, practice, practice. The thing you have to develop is called situational awareness. It means to have as many details at hand as possible in any given situation.This is a fake or “polite smile”: the corners of the mouth move toward the ears and there is little emotion in the eyes. Manage sweaty hands: Sweaty hands tend to happen because of nervousness, so they’re a possible sign of nervousness. The behaviors dictated by the limbic system are reliable because they operate outside of the neocortex, the conscious part of the brain. Freeze, flight or fight The limbic brainis the region that controls emotional responses, and it plays a huge role in body language. The limbic system is unconscious, so we are not always aware of what we are feeling or communicating nonverbally.

Keep your hands visible: Hiding your hand creates a very bad impression, we human beings expect and want to see the hands and what they’re doing. So keep them in front of you and above the table. During discomfort, the limbic brain takes over, and a person’s face can conversely either flush or lighten in color.The ability to link a pacifying behavior with the specific stressor that caused it can help you better understand the person with whom you are interacting.