About this deal
I am a 32 year old AuDHDer (I'm autistic and have ADHD - as well as other common mental health comorbidities). It's very clear that he is actively doing his best to not only support her, but that he accepts Rox exactly the way she is and loves her unconditionally. If you have ADHD —or love somebody who does— DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships.
Learn how to: • Stop believing you are fundamentally broken • Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world • Communicate your struggles to those who love you • Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them • Be compassionate rather than judgemental . I did briefly say to myself "I'm never late", but I could hear my entire family laughing uproariously in my head at that notion and quickly came back down to reality.
If you’re like Rox and have lived with diagnosed or undiagnosed ADHD, you may have struggled with this. Like Roxanne, living up until now with undiagnosed ADHD, created a lot of inner turmoil and self-doubt. There are some nice tidbits of advice, and the story is well-performed, but overall this was not worth the time for the limited guidance offered. I hope it all works out for her -- but, in my experience, I suspect she's got a lot more work ahead of her.
Probably, I should mention that I don’t follow the authors on any social media, and I started this book without any prior knowledge of their background.
I sense that Emery herself, is still on her own journey towards getting more agency with this--she freely admits she has been really reliant on her partner, especially in her earliest days with the diagnosis. Rather than teach how to overcome and live with the challenging aspects of ADHD, it heavily relies on co-dependence. I'm now experiencing what I had only read about and never related to - before my diagnosis I had the highly functioning kind - thriving in school, breezing thru my PhD studies, loads of energy, juggling 5 major tasks at once, Acing tests, all that.